All right, time to dust off and fire up the old xanga.
Question (I always seem to have one of these, don't I): What do you all think of online dating? To some, it's a good way to meet people when you don't have any real prospects. To others, it's a good way to meet creeps. To some, it's too worldly. What say you?
A few months back I signed up for an Eharmony account, just kind of pursuing a lark. Put in where I lived, answered 103647 questions on the personality quiz, wrote what the last book I read was, checked out the results of my personality test, the whole 9 yards. Then I forgot about it.
I got an email from them today saying that Amanda in Bend had sent me some "First Questions," which I guess are questions that Eharmony provides to help get a conversation going. So I get back on, check this girl out, and I'm thinking okay, let's roll with this and see where it ends up. I answer the questions and hit send.
The following message pops up: "To communicate with Amanda, you need to subscribe. 12 months for $20.95/month. 1 month for $59.95." Crap. I'm a poor college student who tried this on a lark, not some professional who can shell out money in hopes of finding "the right one."
Although some of the people on there might be Christians, I would have my questions about the chances of finding a high quality, good character woman on there (and one that's not desperate).
Love your questions Matt. (Is that because I have lots of opinions???) In any case I think online dating is both a good way to meet people and a good way to meet creeps. Kind of like all other forms of dating. Being highly screened like you're describing eHarmony to be it would seem that would somewhat lower the risk of meeting creeps. As for the cost $20.95 is cheaper than a moderate dinner for two around here.
Remember too, that in 2003 the median age for a man to marry (NOT counting those that were remarrying) was 27.1
@Raisown - I guess I should have added that you had to pay the $20.95/month all at once, so it was like 250 bucks
I would be much more skeptical of eharmony if I didn't know 3 (nice, Christian) women who met their (nice, Christian) husbands that way. And I think Neil Clark Warren has some sound ideas about what makes a marriage work.
However.
I don't think you at this point should pursue eharmony. I think you should save your money and have your mom be on the lookout for someone for you. She has a few ideas already, you know.
I to know some people that have met that way, nice Christian people, and married, but I say the cost must be a sign from the Lord that your not supposed to go that route. Since your mom's advise is free and she loves you and knows you better then well anybody, well I'd choose her over some calloused computer program
I need to add in that both of my sisters found their wonderful hubby on eharmony.
Just to clear it up, I hope nobody is thinking I'm condeming them as a bad person if they found someone special on there. Can't say the thought of doing it never crossed my mind, but I'm sure glad I waited! God found me one that I could have never found on my own!
First of all, obviously Christians use computers! ;) So there should be no surprise that Christians use online dating or match making services such as Eharmony. My advice....spring for the $60 for a month and check it out. You will spend that much taking that special someone to dinner so it sounds like a fair investment towards what might or might not be something very special.
As for the chances of finding a "high quality good character woman on there"...well... I think you will have to wisely judge that for yourself... online...or in school...or in church...the last time I checked, demographics had little to do with character.
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Good Luck with that!!
Love your questions Matt. (Is that because I have lots of opinions???) In any case I think online dating is both a good way to meet people and a good way to meet creeps. Kind of like all other forms of dating. Being highly screened like you're describing eHarmony to be it would seem that would somewhat lower the risk of meeting creeps. As for the cost $20.95 is cheaper than a moderate dinner for two around here.
Remember too, that in 2003 the median age for a man to marry (NOT counting those that were remarrying) was 27.1
@Raisown - I guess I should have added that you had to pay the $20.95/month all at once, so it was like 250 bucks
I would be much more skeptical of eharmony if I didn't know 3 (nice, Christian) women who met their (nice, Christian) husbands that way. And I think Neil Clark Warren has some sound ideas about what makes a marriage work.
However.
I don't think you at this point should pursue eharmony. I think you should save your money and have your mom be on the lookout for someone for you. She has a few ideas already, you know.
@futureastronaut - Ouch! So much for eHarmony!
I to know some people that have met that way, nice Christian people, and married, but I say the cost must be a sign from the Lord that your not supposed to go that route.
Since your mom's advise is free and she loves you and knows you better then well anybody, well I'd choose her over some calloused computer program 
I need to add in that both of my sisters found their wonderful hubby on eharmony.
Just to clear it up, I hope nobody is thinking I'm condeming them as a bad person if they found someone special on there. Can't say the thought of doing it never crossed my mind, but I'm sure glad I waited! God found me one that I could have never found on my own!
First of all, obviously Christians use computers! ;) So there should be no surprise that Christians use online dating or match making services such as Eharmony. My advice....spring for the $60 for a month and check it out. You will spend that much taking that special someone to dinner so it sounds like a fair investment towards what might or might not be something very special.
As for the chances of finding a "high quality good character woman on there"...well... I think you will have to wisely judge that for yourself... online...or in school...or in church...the last time I checked, demographics had little to do with character.